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Posted by secretlynaughty on October 18, 2008

Just chatting online with my dear friend Ronjazz it occurred to me that there is a gap in the blogosphere. I keep finding myself drawn towards blogs by people who are either Dominant Males or submissive females. There are also a few blogs by couples in this situation. There are also blogs by people who write about sex but are neither dom or sub. I believe I have a desire to be submisive. Not as in a full time role but as part of sex play with my partner. Having said that I have been toying with the idea of finding myself a Dom. My sweetheart is not a Dom although he feels like I do that it is good to include as part of our sexual repertoire.

My sweetheart would like to Dominate me and has trapped my arms behind my back rendering me helpless, but he did release me as soon as I said my arms were hurting. But the ache that remained hours later was welcome as it was another reminder of our precious time together. My sweetheart has always promised me that he will bind my wrists and blindfold me. He wants to take away my control so that he can give me an experience of just letting go. He likes to give me commands and expects me to comply (but this is just a game for us).  I enjoy being a good girl for him but I can be brattish and feisty too which he enjoys to.

Then there are the times that I like to take control and have him do my bidding. He finds this extremely amusing but he would willing accept my wish to be the one in control for a time. we have not tried it but I think he would be receptive to me spanking him just as he has agreed to me tying him up when and if I decided that was what I wanted to do.

My sweetheart spends a lot of time away on business, leaving me at home sexually frustrated for long periods of time. These are the times when I begin to  think I would like to find a Dom to keep me under control when my Sweetheart is away. This is when I start trawling through the sex blogs trying to find what it is that I want.

If I was to find myself a Dom, how would that fit in with my relationship? Would I find a Dom who is happy to control a fiesty willfull woman like me. Would I find someone who would be willing to switch occasionally. This is when I came to the realisation that although I am sure there are many people out there who are switches I have not come across a blog by anyone who switches, Ron agrees that he has not seen any either.

Do any of you know of any such blogs?

Do any of you think it is possible for me to carry out my desires without harming my relationship with my sweetheart.

8 Responses to “Switch”

  1. Hello! I’m new to your words so I don’t know you at all. I actually specialize in giving advice without any information. 😉

    To your questions: No…I know I’ve come across blogs by switches…but not one stands out in my mind. I don’t know why that is..although it may be because the universe of a male switch (what, I gather, you’re talking about) holds no alure for me. As to the second query: it is possible to have it all without harm to your love, but it’s also possible to totally screw it up. The answer is not in the stars, to quote somebody or other, but in ourselves. You’d know better if it was possible by talking it out with him. Be especially attentive to what he says and what you hear. Beyond here lie dragons.

    Once upon a time I was in the early stages of a long-distance poly/dom thing. The lady had her husband’s permission to submit to me. My instructions occasionally required “hands on” and so I had him be my puppet. It didn’t take him long to recognize that her responses to me and the illusions I/she/we created were more powerful, and therefore threatening to him, than he had expected. Things blew up for she and I because she didn’t want to endanger her relationship with her primary partner. I was heart broken but understood. Not long after that they broke up too.

    Robert Frost wrote “The woods are lovely, dark and deep…” but he never did mention the wild animals lurking there. Be careful.

    Mr. Upton Ogood

  2. You Know Who said

    what a good name, Mr Upton. Truly one I would aspire to.

    A switch, you say, hmmm

  3. Oh, what’s in a name? A rose by any other name still smells funny.

    If you would aspire to my name, all it takes is inspiration and perspiration and try to avoid expiration. 😉

    Sorry that I still have nothing on the switch front…but maybe you need to poke around FetLife or Collarme. That’s all I’ve got for the moment.

    Mr. Upton Ogood

  4. secretlynaughty said

    mr upton ogood, I have seen you comment elsewhere before ever you came here.

    I think I shall dig around a bit in places I have not yet gone but whether I take it any further watch this space

  5. secretlynaughty said

    YKW as mr upton ogood says what is a name just look as the name you use here of course I know who you are but nobody else does lol

  6. Ubiquitous…I can say that of my comments…but can I spell it? I dunno.

    I leave comments everywhere, so maybe you saw me there 😉

    Mr. Upton, “I’m like the spirit of Christmas…I’m everywhere”, Ogood

  7. Steve said

    I like the idea. I never played dom in any fasion, but one time Amy tied me up and rode my cock like a cow girl. It was a great experience to feel out of control and when I came it was amazing.


  8. secretlynaughty said

    hey steve thats funny I was reading your blog as you were reading mine.

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