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Beyond vanilla

Posted by secretlynaughty on December 19, 2010

The subject has arisen again.

BDSM, am I into it and if so in which role?

Am I Vanilla or not?

I suspect that anyone who is vanilla would if they knew what I have done in recent years,  say that I am not vanilla (that is if they even knew what being vanilla meant).

I suspect that anyone heavily into BDSM would say that I am little more than vanilla.

I was vanilla until a few years ago when I joined the world of sex bloggers. From the moment I began reading other sex blogs and discussing various aspects of sex with other sex bloggers my interest in sex beyond vanilla began to grow. Some of my favourite blogs from those early days have since ceased to be. Two of my favourite bloggers of that time were the very educational and sexy Cherrie and the delightfully adventurous La Fille. They are both missed (at least by me).

During this time I discovered in myself a need to try out a variety of things I had previously felt were no go areas for me.

There was the time a good friend (he was the one who introduced me to sex blogs in the first place) agreed to give me my first experience of being spanked/caned. I was astounded by my ability to cope with pain as have always believed myself to be a total wimp where pain is concerned. Since then sadly I have not experienced any further caning however I have been spanked (not seriously but in fun). Dave is quite happy to spank me and has also been the only man who has actually tied me up to a degree although others have said they would. Probably the most serious spanking I have had apart from that very first time was at the swingers party Dave took me to where my favourite room was the dungeon.

Who would have ever thought someone as shy and selfconscience as I would ever put on a show for doggers.

I have had many conversations with a variety of men about being in a Dom/sub relationship. This is something I am curious about and reading about it turns me on big time. But although quite a few men have shown an interest in the concept I have not found any who would do this with me properly. Some are merely interested in making a woman do whatever they want without caring about doing ao with care and love. I have discussed it with Dave as he seems to be the only one in my life who is capable of giving me the kind of sex I crave, but he says he could never be dominant.

I have had numerous conversations (mainly in the past) about whether I am submissive. I believe that I do have a tendency to allow my partner to lead me in sex. But there are times when I feel a need to be the one in control. There fore I believe that I am for the most part submissive but could never be totally controlled.

Ages ago I came across a BDSM quiz which I took and posted the results here. I think it would be interestin now to take the test again if it still exists just to see if the results come out the same as before.

BDSM Quiz

my result first time:

You Scored as Switch
(((Note: This quiz is not totally comprehensive because of the length such a quiz would be. I kept it sex-based because I felt that psychological profiles and motivations were too complicated and vary too greatly among people that practice BDSM.))) You know what you want but it has nothing to do with your own role in the bedroom. You have the ability to be flexible in that area which can be useful for exploring you sexuality with your partner.

Switch
96%
Experimental
89%
Submissive
86%
Bondage
82%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur
75%
Masochist
71%
Dominant
61%
Sadist
54%
Degradation Lover
54%
Vanilla
21%

my result this time is :

You Scored as Switch

(((Note: This quiz is not totally comprehensive because of the length such a quiz would be. I kept it sex-based because I felt that psychological profiles and motivations were too complicated and vary too greatly among people that practice BDSM.))) You know what you want but it has nothing to do with your own role in the bedroom. You have the ability to be flexible in that area which can be useful for exploring you sexuality with your partner.

Switch
100%
Experimental
93%
Bondage
93%
Submissive
86%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur
86%
Sadist
86%
Masochist
82%
Dominant
71%
Degradation Lover
46%
Vanilla
18%

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Silent control

Posted by secretlynaughty on November 30, 2010

Esme had watched Armand’s face closely as he weighed her left breast in his hand giving it an appreciative caress with his thumb before following the same process with her right breast. It had made her uncomfortable the first time Armand had done this only to inform her that her breasts as magnificent as they are don’t match completely. No of course not, no woman is symetrical but Esme had never considered the difference in her breasts to be significant enough to notice. Esme had enjoyed the power that her breasts had afforded her over the men in her life, until she had met Armand.

Almost from the instant Armand had walked up to her in the wine bar Esme had felt there was something different about him. Placing his hand on her wrist as it rested on the bar, his firm but gentle grip that left her feeling compelled to look  into his deep brown eyes. Standing there looking as though he owned the place not saying  a word until Esme tried to slide her hand from beneath his, Esme began to feel a little unsure of herself. The normally confident PR girl was surrendering control to this unknown man before her.

Lifting her wrist from the bar, keeping his grip firm the slight pressure urging her away from the bar his soft voice barely more than a whiser, taking her by suprise. ‘I need you to follow me now please’. Astonished Esme found herself rising from her barstool and with her free hand grabbing her shoulder bag and jacket from their hook on the side of the bar. She allowed herself to be silently led between the tables of afterwork drinkers, through the door and into the early evening street.  It hadn’t occurred to her to say anything, to resist, she just followed this stranger like the obedient girl she was about to become for the first time in her life.

Once outside in the weak late summer sun, Esme hesitated, wanting to stay here and finish her glass of  Cabernet Sauvignon, the South African Merlot had been going down nicely easing the stress of the day from her body. Feeling her hesitation Armand urged her to follow him. ‘My car is just around the corner, come with me now I promise I will look after you.’ With those deep brown eyes boring into her own lighter hazel eyes Esme knew she didn’t have the strength of will to refuse. Trotting along beside this tall stranger his hand around her wrist never quite relinquishing his grip keeping her by his side as he strode on.

Now a month later Esme is still amazed at how easily Armand had taken control of her. Not for one minute had she doubted that he would take care of her. Without question she had climbed inside his Mercedes SLR with its strange upward sliding doors, obediently fastening her seatbelt, ready to be driven wherever this man cared to take her. It had  taken less than 10 minutes before the  sleek black machine slid through the barrier and down into the underground car park.  Still not speaking she had followed like a puppy at her master’s heel into the  lift which swiftly took them to his apartment (she had known instinctly that it was his).

Apart from work the two of them had become inseperable. At the end of that first evening they had driven together to her small flat to collect what clothes she would need for the next few days. They had talked while he made dinner, it was refreshing to talk to a smart intelligent man who didn’t think sex was everything. In fact sex hadn’t been part of their talk at all that night. But he had made it clear, although not in so many words that by leaving with him she had agreed to be his.

That first night they had slept side by side not touching under the fresh cool cotton sheets of his queensize bed. But it had been the second night that Esme had learnt what her future with Armand would trully be like. Each day Armand drove her to work and collected her, he took her shopping for new clothes gradually replacing  her own. Anything she wanted Armand would get for her.

‘Anything my girl desires will be yours in return for your complete devotion’.

For the first time since she had been a child Esme was not in control of her own life, she wasn’t sure this was what she wanted but she felt powerless to resist this man’s charm. Whatever he said she was slave to his greater presence. As the days passed into weeks she was learning more about this man and his desires. Each evening after dinner Armand led Esme into her small bedroom where she would find an outfit laid out for her. It could be a silky evening dress, pvc catsuit, school girl uniform the variations endless. Armand would silently watch her strip off, his cool assesment of her body unnerving had now become normal. Cupping her breasts in turn, running his hands over her body appreciatively showing her who it was that owned her, he would turn on his heel and leave her to dress. Once dressed Esme would join Armand wherever he was either in his sumptuous yet elegant sittingroom or in his expensively stark bedroom.

Night after night they played out whatever scenario he had in his mind. The most startling revelation had been the night there had been no clothes just a rope laid out on the bed. That night he had waited while she bathed before expertly wrapping the rope around her body and limbs in a such a way that it was obvious he knew exactly what he was doing. Oddly Esme had felt only a flicker of fear before succumbing to his expertise. Even in the short time they had been together she had already learnt that it was better for her to trust Armand ad do exactly what he wanted. Her obedience was rewarded with the soothing comfort of sleeping in his arms in his big comfortable bed. Reluctance was rewarded with a lonely night in her own uncomfortable single bed with its sagging mattress in the cramped dark room the door locked and a bucket in the corner if she needed it.

There had been 2 nights spent there so far the first had been the night she had been introduced to his array of leather paddles. At first Esme had stared in horror as Armand had approached her with a small leather oar shaped item in his hand motioning her to bend over the back of the only chair in her room.

‘Young lady you will bend over the chair and surrender your smooth bottom to my paddle. Resistence will lead to you being banished from my bed tonight.’ she had been scared for the first time since they had met. ‘Please Armand I’m scared, please don’t hurt me, I will do anything you want but please not that…..please’. Without waiting he had pushed her over the chair and begun using his paddle on her soft flesh. There was none of the pain she was expecting just tiny taps followed by soft carresses. Mistakenly Esme thought her pleading had brought a change of heart but in reality he was merely introducing her gently to one of his favourite games. When he pulled her back to a standing position, she let out a big sigh of relief.

But instead of pulling her into his embrace for a kiss he left the room locking the door as he went. At first Esme had sat on the edge of the bed patiently waiting for him to return……..he didn’t …….not until the morning. The second time was when she was dressed in a micro skirt skimpy top with spagheti straps and red fishnet stockings and heels. She looked fantastic and knew it. The trouble came when Armand told her they were going out for a drink.

Today Esme was facing the prospect of another night in solitude. Earlier the two of them had been shopping for groceries. Armand had embarrassed her by picking up a variety of melons and comparing each to her breasts. But as embrrassed as she was Esme could cope with that. Her undoing had been after they had returned home. he had passed her the ginger root they had selected together and instructed her to peel it. Esme was curious. ‘why do you want it peeled?’

‘peeled ginger will be more effective, have you ever heard of figging?’

She hadn’t and duly peeled the knobbly root to Armand’s specification then whilst he prepared theirigging meal she googled figging.

A peeled ginger root, shaped like a slender butt plug, inserted into the anus without lubrication of any kind. The ginger juices cause pain and extreme horniness. The person belonging to said anus become twitchy, jumpy and very lively. The effect lasts for about 20 minutes or more depending on the freshness and strength of the root. The root can also be applied directly to the clitoris or inserted into the urethra.

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Open

Posted by secretlynaughty on August 17, 2010

Keatsjohnkeats has raised the question of how open I am about my activities.  I feel perhaps I should explain for those who have only been reading this blog for a limited time what exactly my situation is, if I even know that myself. I change my mind all the time as is my prerogative being of the female species.

I am female (I hope that, that much is obvious), I am old enough to know better and young enough to enjoy it. I broke free of the shackles of a disastrous marriage to an objectionable man 20 years after choosing not to be involved in life because I had, had my heart-broken and didn’t wish to repeat the experience. I married a man I didn’t love, I let life pass me by without taking part. My one contribution to the world at large was the creation of several bright well-mannered young people. I became dangerously ill at a time when my children needed me. Against the predictions of my then husband I refused to die………….as you can tell I won that battle. I accepted my illness as a wake up signal to start living again.

I   cut loose……I began dating, I am single again and this time I have a better idea of what I do and don’t want. I have begun to celebrate my sexuality instead of being ashamed of it. I go through phases, sometimes all I want is a stable relationship, one where  I am completely committed to that one man. At other times and this is one of those, I rejoice in being single, I see several men simultaneously. During these phases I explore my sexuality and push my boundaries. I try to discover how far I am willing to go. I do things I wouldn’t do if I were in a committed relationship.

Whilst I am exploring my sexual boundaries I join adult sites like Adult friend finder and more recently Fab swingers. Since joining FAB I have enjoyed the social side of swinging as much as the sexual side. I joined forces with Karl to become a ‘couple’. We began meeting other couples, I was also seeing Dave, he is more adventurous than Karl. Dave has taken me to a local swinger club a couple of times. At the club I experienced a jacuzzi for the first time as well as seeing my first dungeon. I do enjoy the spanking benches. It was at the club that I discovered that being watched is not as embarassing as I had always imagined.

Since I joined forces with Karl we have met several other couples, mostly in social situations. One of the couples we came across are Bruce and Alice. We have met them twice now, both times with others and both times there has been lots of action. After the first time Bruce started texting me and we had a long telephone conversation. During this conversation we talked about spanking. I am not sure how the conversation got onto that topic. Since then he has been asking me to let him tie me to his four poster bed and be spanked.  Karl knows that I enjoy a little spanking as does Dave. Karl doesn’t like the idea of spanking at all, he doesn’t like the idea of pain even the slightest bit. Dave on the other hand is more willing to indulge me in whatever I desire.

Of all the people I know within our circle I have not discussed spanking with anyone else. However 3 years ago I talked about it with a fellow blogger. After several months of discussions he booked an hotel room where he spanked and caned me. There was nothing between us other than our friendship, this was purely an experiment so that I could experience what it would feel like. Later after he had gone Fred arrived to give me some TLC. He was the only other person I had told about what I was doing. Later still after Fred had gone Nigel arrived to spend a few hours with me.  It didn’t take him long to see the marks on my sore bum. Apart from those who read my blogs nobody else other than these few people know that I am interested in spanking.

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Limits completed

Posted by secretlynaughty on August 10, 2010

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B continued with C – D and   E – F and  G – H and  I, J, k, L, M & N then  O – R now I am completing the excercise with S – Z.some of these I have commented on already.

Saran wrap …………. see previous
Scarification  ………this goes against my instincts to shy away from permanent disfigurement of the body
Scratching – getting ………….I am sure I would be excited by this
Scratching – giving  ………..not as easy as it sounds …………I know ………I have tried
Sensory deprivation  …………..I can’t wait to try this ………with someone I trust implicitly
Serving …………..perhaps to a small degree as part of role play
Serving as art  ………..you are joking right? me ……..art ha ha
Serving as ashtray .……..don’t be stupid ……….apart from anything else I am a non smoker
Serving as furniture …………do you like your furniture to wriggle ……….I’m not good at keeping still
Serving as a maid  .……….can I get you anything?
Serving as a toilet (urine)  …………..eeewwwwww
Serving as a toilet (feces)  .……………crap no!
Serving as waitress/waiter  ……….I’m a mother ……..what do you think I have been doing all these years
Serving orally (sexual)  ………….mmmmmmmmmmm
Serving other Doms (supervised)  .………….I can’t answer this
Serving other Doms (unsupervised) .………see above
Sexual deprivation (short term) ………….don’t you think I have suffered enough?
Sexual deprivation (long term)
…………see above
Shaving (body hair)  …………I have been doing this for years
Shaving (head hair)  ……… what lose my lovely hair ………….no thank you
Skinny dipping  ..………..hasn’t everyone at one time or another?
Sleep deprivation   …………………makes me tired and irritable
Sleep sacks ………..see previous
Slutty clothing (private) …….yes it has been known
Slutty clothing (public) …………occasionally but only in selected places with selected company
Spandex clothing  ……….. you can keep it
Spanking  …………yes
Speech restrictions (when/what)………….as if that could be possible for this chatter box
Speculums (anal) ……….what will they think of next?
Speculums (vaginal) ……….. you get used to them very quickly with regular use
Spitting  .……….didn’t your mum tell you that its rude to spit?
Spreader bars  …………..I wonder!
Standing in corner  .……..I can do that ……didn’t you see  the pictures?
Stocks
………..I bet thats something else I’m too short for
Straight jackets  ………..some people make me feel like I am wearing an imaginary one…………I think a real one would be very difficult for me
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)  .……….the idea of strap ons does nothing for me
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)   .………see above
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)  .……….see above
Strapping (full body beating)  …………ummm probably not but you never know
Suspension (upright)  ……..this body is too weak and out of condition
Suspension (inverted)  .………never likely to have the strength of mind or body for this
Supplying new partners for Dom  ……….you mean I would have to share
Swallowing feces  .………not on your nelly
Swallowing semen  .………of course
Swallowing urine   …………….no not for me thank you
Swapping (with one other couple)  .……… always game for a bit of swapsies
Swinging (multiple couples) ………cum on you know me ……….the more the merrier
Tampon training (in ass) ………..gawd no …………..I would prefer a but plug
Tattooing
………….no this is one of my pet hates
Teasing  ………..didn’t you know that teasing is my middle name
TENS unit (electrical toy)  …………didn’t use one during labour so why would I want to now?
Thumb cuffs (metal) …………..see previous
Tickling     ……………have always love to tickle/be tickled but now learnt to control it
Triple Penetration  .……… next on my list of to do things
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) ………see previous
Uniforms    .………….I’m sure that will do nicely thanks
Including others  .………like I said…….the more the merrier
Vaginal dildo  …………so long as it isn’t too thick.

Verbal humiliation   .
……….maybe in small doses, might not have desired effect, 19 years of this from my ex
Vibrator on genitals   …………oh yes!!
Violet wand (electrical toy)  ……………can I give you my answer after I try one
Voyeurism (watching others)  …………mild interest but really only to get ideas
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
………..this might not be as easy
Video (watching others)   ………..depends how real it is
Video (recordings of you)  .……………….just be careful who gets a copy
Water torture    …………don’t you think there is enough torture ans some would say enough water in the world
Waxing (hair removal)  .……not something I intend volunteering for
Wearing symbolic jewelry   ……….. expect so
Weight gain (forced)   .………..no force required …………..just looking adds weight
Weight loss (forced)    .………if only this would work
Whipping  .……… can I ?
Wooden paddles   ……….how do they compare to leather ones?
Wrestling     …………do I get to practice my special moves?

So now you know

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In need of fun

Posted by secretlynaughty on July 24, 2010

It’s been tough recently and I’m in need of some fun.

Tomorrow Karl will be at my house early, then in the afternoon we are meeting up with Dave to go sailing for a few hours…….. will we hav

I don’t know but if we do you can be sure I will tell you about it.

After we have been sailing we will all go back to Daves place to shower and get changed before we set out.

We are going to another party like the one I went to with Kev a while ago, only this time Dave is going with us, there may also be another couple plus possibly a single female.

If all goes to plan we will all be having fun this time tomorrow. I hope that Ian will be bringing his bag of toys and props again. If not we will have to improvise. Alice tells me that she is bringing a whip and she wants to suck my nipples again. there will be lots of hands, mouths, cocks and pussies for everyone to play with let alone toys and other props.

It should be a good night.

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Don’t touch

Posted by secretlynaughty on July 22, 2010

In a recent post by Yummy she stated that when she is stressed she needs among other things to have her throat held. For me that would be a cause of stress.

I don’t know why but I have never liked anything around my neck. I don’t wear clothes that have a high neck. I could never wear a necklace that was close to my throat.

When I first met my ex husband he occasionally tried to touch my throat and I always pushed him away.  I don’t think there was anything else he could have done that would freak me out more ………..apart from when he used to chase me around the house with his finger prick needle (I don’t do needles…..bit of a problem for a diabetic).

Whilst we were going through our divorce (living in the same house of hell) it became a daily routine for him to put his hands around my throat. He was well aware that it freaks me out but still he did it. Even though he always said it was just a joke I knew he was doing it on purpose because he knew I hated it.

Just thinking about having anything around my throat makes me feel bad, I get a chill down my spine. I know that if anyone tried to hold my throat I would panic and lash out. There are things I don’t think I would like but might be willing to try but a hand on my throat is not one of those. Nothing will ever persuade me to try it.

I know we are all different and what works for one person is wrong for another, is there anything that freaks you out just thinking about it?

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My limitations O-R

Posted by secretlynaughty on July 7, 2010

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B continued with C – D and   E – F and  G – H and  I, J, k, L, M & N just a few more this time  O – R .some of these I have commented on already.

Oral/anal play (rimming)  ……………….I guess I might tolerate receiving but giving are you serious……do you know where that butt has been?
Over the knee spanking ………perhaps I should be a bad girl just so you will put me over your knee …….do you have strong knees?
Orgasm denial  ……..this is an interesting one……….It would take a lot of training as I currently have no control ……if I am going to orgasm the hoover dam wouldn’t be able to hold me back
Orgasm control  …………..see above …………..but I do like to have control over your orgasm hee hee
Outdoor scenes   ………… I have been known to indulge with varying degrees of success
Pain (severe) .………..do you have any idea how low my pain threshold is? on a scale of 1 to 10 my pain threshold is -5
Pain (mild)     …………..If its in a good cause ie my pleasure ……….bring it on 😉
Persona training (in scene)  ……………will give it a go (with the right person)
Personal modification (rl)  .………….if it leads to personal improvement I am all for it ……..just don’t hurt me too much …….(did I tell you I’m a whimp)
Phone sex (serving Dom)   ………….If thats what it takes
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends)    ……….. If I had a Dom who required it then of course
Phone sex (commercial provider)    .………….It has been suggested by some at work that I would earn a fortune at it
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)    ……………..No, Karl asked me  just days ago if I wanted nipple or clit piercings ……..I don’t need the added stimulation of  metal embedded in my flesh to increase my arousal
Piercing (permanent)  ……………see above………. I am not against them for others but not for me I’m  afraid
Plastic surgery  …………..if it was for health reasons yes but not for pleasure only
Prison scenes  …………not sure why anyone would want to do this but if it floats your boat
Prostitution (public pretense)   …………small possibility
Prostitution (actual)    …………..no I don’t think so………I do what I do because I  want to, not because I have been paid to
Pony slave  ………….please explain
Public exposure  …………..have done this to a degree and found it thrilling ……..not sure how far I would dare to go though
Punishment scene     have tried to do this …………..would love to try it again
Pussy/cock whipping  ………..willing to try this ……..just remember the pain thresh hold
Pussy worship   …………you may certainly worship my pussy………..I promise I won’t complain
Riding crops  ………..didn’t know you could ride a crop…….oh thats mot it is it………um be gentle please ……..oh ok just don’t make me count and afterwards can I try it on you?
Riding the “horse” (crotch tort) …………..please explain
Rituals    …………. I have my own but I don’t think you mean those
Religious scenes  ………… a man of the cloth does feature in a few of my joint fantasies with Sebastian
Restrictive rules on behavior   ………..hmm would struggle between being  a good girl and a brat
Rubber/latex clothing   …………cool something to get me all hot
Rope body harness  …….if you have enough rope go for it …………..if I don’t like it I won’t do it again

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Limitations I,J,K,L,M & N

Posted by secretlynaughty on June 13, 2010

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B continued with C – D and   E – F and  G – H and now I, J, k, L, M & N some of these I have commented on already.

Ice cubes ………..yummy I like this kind of play especially when used on a hot body (preferably mine)
Immobilisation ……………this could be a little limiting…….but I can see the attraction both of imobilising and being immobilised
Infantilism…………..no  not of any interest to me ……….I am after all a mother several times over
Initiation rites ………..this sounds creepy so I guess I would want to know ore before comiting myself
Injections…………….no, no, no , no no…….I am a diabetic with a fear of needles!!
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage……..having never experienced rope play of any kind I cannot say yes or no
Interrogations …………..I think I would break down fairly easily
Kidnapping ………..depends who by and where to
Kneeling …………..careful of my dodgy knee
Knife play.………..no  don’t do blades ……….someone (hopefully not me) could get hurt!
Leather Clothing………….The only problem I see here is finding the right size as there isn’t much give in leather
Leather restraints………I have seen some retty pink soft leather ones I would love to own
Lectures for misbehavior……..ooops have I been naughty ?
Licking (non-sexual) ………..ewww makes me think of being licked in the face by a slobbery dog no thanks
Lingerie (wearing)…………where have you been if you don’t know that I adore wearing sexy lingerie
Manacles and Irons……………..not so sure , maybe if it is only for a short time as an experiment
Manicures (giving) .……….are you joking? ………….I wouldn’t have a clue where to start
Massage (giving).………..happy to give it a go but somewhat clueless could do more harm than good
Massage (receiving)………..oh yes please, love it
Medical scenes ………….this sounds a bit creept unless you mean like drs and nurses but somehow I think this could be a bit more serious
Modeling for erotic photos……………when and where?
Mouth bits …………………what?
Mummification …………………really?
Name change (for scene)………..would this be like me using another name for swinging purposes?

Needle Play ………I already said I don’t do needles did you hear that ……..no needles ever!!
Nipple clamps ………coming around to this one………..have experimented with clothes pegs a few times but only on my own
Nipple rings (piercing)…………..I’m too much of a slightweight to get that done
Nipple weights …………that could be stretching my tolerance a bit too far!

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Limitations G – H

Posted by secretlynaughty on May 27, 2010

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B continued with C – D and   E – F and now G – H some of these I have commented on already.

Gags (cloth) …………….it had better be clean if its going into my mouth !!
Gags (inflatable) ………….does that mean it can be inflated to the optimum size for the mouth it is going into.
Gags (phallic) …………… oh goody shaped gags ………….do they cause the gagging reflex?
Gags (rubber) ………… I thought we were supposed to use a rubber elsewhere
Gags (tape) ………….can it be in pretty colours ?(I’ve seen it in pink but would like red).
Gas masks ………….We sometimes need one in our bathroom …………hmm  having used one during basic training for my brief stint in the Territorial Army I’ not sure I would want to indulge during sexual play
Gates of Hell (male) …………..please explain ………..is he strung up on a wrought iron gate ?
Genital sex ………….am I being dense here?………..doesn’t sex usually involve genitals
Given away to another Dom (temp) …………provided that my Dom (if I had one) was satisfied that I would be safe with  the other Dom
Given away to another Dom (perm)…………..if it was in my best interests
Golden Showers …………..no no no to golden showers or any other colour
Gun play ……………I’ve heard it called a few things and I know they like to shoot their load from their pencil but a gun !
Hair brush spankings ………..why would you spank a hair brush? ………..ooops you mean being spanked with one  hmm not tried it yet but you never know ……….I assume it would be bristle side up
Hair pulling …………oh yes I love this ………..not that I have ever said so
Hand Jobs (giving) ……………yes I do and I’m not bad at it but do prefer to use my mouth more than my hand
Hand Jobs (receiving) ……………..he can use his hands on me anytime
Harems (serving w/other subs) …………not sure I could do this as I am not very domestic but maybe
Harnessing (leather) …………I would probably try it in the right circumstances with the right person/persons
Harnessing (rope) ……….as above I might be convinced to try it
Having food chosen for you …………provided that the person doing the choosing knew what I would/wouldn’t eat
Having clothing chosen for you …………..provided that the person doing the choosing had a sense of style
(head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) …………….have you been reading this blogg for long ……….if so you will know the answer
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus) ……………not enough men know how to give expert head but when they do …….mmmmmmmm there is nothing in this world that is better.
High Heel Wearing ………….anyone who knows me knows that I adore wearing high heels
High Heel Worship …………. have you seen my wardrobe? ………….oh thats not what it means ………..perhaps
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)………….probably not
Hoods …………if I had cold ears………..not tight fitting
Hot oils (on genitals) ………………if he has upset me I ight be tempted to do this to him
Hot waxing ……………noooooooooooooo
Housework (doing)……………..why start now?
Human puppy dog …………………what?
Humiliation (private)………………does this include the above? ………..unlikely…….. I am nolonger married!!
Humiliation (public) …………as above
Hypnotism…………..if I trusted the hypnotist

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Limitations E – F

Posted by secretlynaughty on May 13, 2010

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B continued with C – D and now  continue with E – F some of these I have commented on already.

Electricity …………… see previous
Enemas (for cleansing) ………… I would if I could
Enemas ( retention/punishment) …………. see previous
Enforced chastity …………….see previous
Erotic Dance (for audience) …………not sure I could do this for an audience but maybe after a few drinks for a small audience of one
Examinations (physical) ………… had plenty of these for medical reasons can’t decide how I would feel about this in a sexual setting
Exercise (forced/required) ………..maybe I need this
Exhibitionism (friends) .…………..possibly
Exhibitionism (strangers) ………….. maybe depending on situation
Eye contact restrictions …………….would find this very difficult
Face Slapping …………in the right situation ……….just don’t mark me
Fantasy Abandonment .………again it would depend on the situation
Fantasy rape ………… having been raped for real this could spark of some bad menories …….so perhaps not
Fantasy gang rape ……………. on the one hand its only a fantasy and on the other see above
Fear (being scared) .…………what does this involve?
Fisting (anal)  .………… I really don’t think so
Fisting (vaginal) .…………… there is no way this will happen
Flame play …………if you think I’m going to do this then think again
Following orders ………… you think I can’t do this……….I would do it just to prove a point
Foot worship ………… as long as its my foot that’s being worshipped……….in the past I hated to have my feet touched but now I love it
Forced bedwetting ………..are you going to force me to drink then tie me to the bed?
Forced Bi .………… I kind of find this idea hot……….is that crazy?
forced dressing .………… is my body so bad that you prefer me clothed
Forced eating …………who needs to be forced? or are you talking tripe?
Forced homosexuality ……….. isn’t this the same as forced bi? ……….you could never make someone 100% gay if that doesn’t come naturally
Forced heterosexuality ………… again you cannot turn someone 100%
Forced masturbation   ………….. having recently begun to maturbate for Dave I have to agree to this
Forced nudity (private)  ………… forced!!
Forced nudity (around others)  ……………this would be more difficult
Forced Servitude  ………… probably in the short term ie an hour or two but I suspect this means a much longer time span

Forced Straight …………with the number of curves I possess this is not possible
Forced smoking ………..having given up more than 20 yrs ago it would take a lot to make me go back
Forced TV / Gender Change …………. how is this possible?
Full head hoods ……….. nah nobody is going to use one of these on me………..not if they want to experience my mouth

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