She did it

Recently I wrote that my libido was low my mojo was missing my sex drive has snuck away ………..how ever you like to say it my need for sex has been eluding me. Sorry nitebyrd if you thought the next post about my night with Nigel was my libodo returning (that post was about a night a few yrs ago after my first ever spanking/caning). It was what Riff would call a ‘filler post’.

A few minutes ago I decided to catch up on Yummy’s blog. Scrolling through a number of posts I had missed my eye caught on this line.

1 woman pushed a toy inside me while she was taken by the therapist

Just that one line did it for me, suddenly I was aroused and reaching inside my clothes, giving myself the first orgasm I had had in days and this one had not been premeditated. Thank you Yummy for helping me to find my libido again.

 

When Wet is too wet

If you didn’t know by now I am an avid reader of blogs like Yummy’s. But apart from that I also chat online quite often with various male friends. (I am not including either Dave of Karl in this). I read about women giving themselves orgasms at work and various other places. Some of the men I chat to including Blogger, Fred, Sebastian and Nigel expect me to be doing the same as Yummy does.

Ok so I have been known to have orgasms in a variety of places and sometimes it take nothing more than a kiss or touch from my lover of the moment. I love to have orgasms al fresco.

But to have a surreptitious orgasm when I am out and about in public or at my desk at work is just not possible. Ok so it would be possible, There are times I could easily give myself an orgasm without anybody suspecting ……………until I stand up.

I don’t even need to have an orgasm, it only takes me to be slightly aroused and I feel the heat running between my thighs ….literally. There are times when I am so aroused that I don’t even know I am making myself and anything I am sitting or standing on soaking wet. I can’t even have an impromptu orgasm in my own home without getting a folded town to put under me, that kind of takes the edge of it being impromptu.

This is why I say that giving myself orgasms in public is not possible, it is possible just not possible to do without giving myself away.

Can anyone help me to find a way of having an orgasm without getting so wet? I know that guys love that I get so wet but it does become a nuisance at times. It also prevents me from having illicit fun without worrying that I will leave a wet mess behind.

Don’t touch

In a recent post by Yummy she stated that when she is stressed she needs among other things to have her throat held. For me that would be a cause of stress.

I don’t know why but I have never liked anything around my neck. I don’t wear clothes that have a high neck. I could never wear a necklace that was close to my throat.

When I first met my ex husband he occasionally tried to touch my throat and I always pushed him away.  I don’t think there was anything else he could have done that would freak me out more ………..apart from when he used to chase me around the house with his finger prick needle (I don’t do needles…..bit of a problem for a diabetic).

Whilst we were going through our divorce (living in the same house of hell) it became a daily routine for him to put his hands around my throat. He was well aware that it freaks me out but still he did it. Even though he always said it was just a joke I knew he was doing it on purpose because he knew I hated it.

Just thinking about having anything around my throat makes me feel bad, I get a chill down my spine. I know that if anyone tried to hold my throat I would panic and lash out. There are things I don’t think I would like but might be willing to try but a hand on my throat is not one of those. Nothing will ever persuade me to try it.

I know we are all different and what works for one person is wrong for another, is there anything that freaks you out just thinking about it?

awarded

yesterday I received this unexpected email……….

An award for you my dear

Award from Yummy

And a huge thank you, you were one of the first to read me and brought my blog to the attention of others.

thanks for noticing me xxx

This is the first award I have received on this blog although I have many on my other blogs. I really hadn’t given it any thought here. It has been reward enough to know that others gain pleasure from visiting this place.

If you have not visited Yummy and her blog you should do so, you won’t be disappointed. I would have nominated her to be included in Rori’s 100 best sex blogs for 2010 but unfortunately her blog has not been going long enough to qualify.

Please explain

Now that my health is beginning to return I thought I would catch up on what I have been missing. When did Riff go private? I have emailed him but no reply yet.

I have also visited Yummy (with more success) where I discovered that she posted a list from an article on fetlife. In a way it is similar to my never  say never and my secret likes lists.  On my fabswingers profile  I have said that I want to push my boundaries. I have been asked a few times what my boundaries are. Now that was a question I wasn’t prepared for so I figured that this might help. I see that Yummy is dealing with the list in batches. Having seen how long the list is I will probably have to do the same.  You are welcome to do the same yourselves either on your own blog or in comments here. Some of these I might need some explanation as I may be unsure what they mean.

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In another thread we started talking about limits, well I know for one that its really hard to try and think about what you don’t or wouldn’t like if it hasn’t already happened once. Also do any of us know all the different activities people have Fetish’s for? So here is a starting point for you to think about it. Please read it all the way through, print it off and maybe do a 0-5, 0 – Love it to 5 – Hard Limit, I will F*****G KILL YOU if you even think about it.

If you dont tell someone it is a limit then there is always a potential there that they might do it.
Abrasion ………please explain
Age Play
Anal Sex
Anal Plugs (small)
Anal Plugs (large)
Anal Plug (public under clothes)
Animal Roles …………….. I can guess
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)  ………… not sure
Aromas
Asphyxiation
Auctioned for charity
Ball Stretching …………I assume this is for males
Bathroom use control
Beastiality
Beating (soft)
Beating (hard)
Blindfolding
Blood Play (Letting of, or playing with actual blood)
Being Serviced (sexual)
Being bitten
Breast/chest bondage
Breath control ………… explain please
Branding
Boot Worship .………….I think I can guess
Bondage (light)
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (multi-day) ……………please explain
Bondage (public under clothing)
Breast whipping
Brown showers (scat) ………..eww
Cages (locked inside)
Caning
Castration fantasy .……………….please explain
Catheterization  …………………please explain
Cattle prod (electrical toy)
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Chains
Chamber pot use
Chastity belts
Chauffeuring ………………what?
Choking
Chores (domestic service)
Clothespins
Cock rings/straps
Cock worship
Collars (worn in private)
Collars (worn in public)
Competitions (with other subs)
Corsets (wearing casually)
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Cutting (Light) Cutting (Deep) Cutting (Hidden Areas) Cutting (Visible Areas)
Diapers (wearing)
Diapers (wetting)
Diapers (soiling)
Dilation …………….please explain
Dildos
Double Penetration
Electricity ……………..please explain
Enemas (for cleansing)
Enemas ( retention/punishment) ………….please explain
Enforced chastity …………….please explain
Erotic Dance (for audience)
Examinations (physical)
Exercise (forced/required)
Exhibitionism (friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye contact restrictions
Face Slapping
Fantasy Abandonment
Fantasy rape
Fantasy gang rape
Fear (being scared) .…………what does this involve?
Fisting (anal)
Fisting (vaginal)
Flame play
Following orders
Foot worship
Forced bedwetting
Forced Bi
forced dressing
Forced eating
Forced homosexuality
Forced heterosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity (private)
Forced nudity (around others)
Forced Servitude Forced Straight
Forced smoking
Forced TV / Gender Change …………. how is this possible?
Full head hoods
Gags (cloth)
Gags (inflatable)
Gags (phallic)
Gags (rubber)
Gags (tape)
Gas masks
Gates of Hell (male) …………..please explain
Genital sex ………….am I being dense here?
Given away to another Dom (temp)
Given away to another Dom (perm)
Golden Showers
Gun play
Hair brush spankings
Hair pulling
Hand Jobs (giving)
Hand Jobs (receiving)
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Harnessing (leather)
Harnessing (rope)
Having food chosen for you
Having clothing chosen for you
(head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus)
High Heel Wearing
High Heel Worship
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Hoods
Hot oils (on genitals)
Hot waxing
Housework (doing)
Human puppy dog …………………what?
Humiliation (private)
Humiliation (public)
Hypnotism
Ice cubes
Immobilisation
Infantilism
Initiation rites
Injections
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Interrogations
Kidnapping
Kneeling
Knife play
Leather Clothing
Leather restraints
Lectures for misbehavior
Licking (non-sexual)
Lingerie (wearing)
Manacles and Irons
Manicures (giving)
Massage (giving)
Massage (receiving)
Medical scenes
Modeling for erotic photos
Mouth bits …………………what?
Mummification …………………really?
Name change (for scene) Needle Play
Nipple clamps
Nipple rings (piercing)
Nipple weights
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Over the knee spanking
Orgasm denial
Orgasm control
Outdoor scenes
Pain (severe)
Pain (mild)
Persona training (in scene)
Personal modification (rl)
Phone sex (serving Dom)
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends)
Phone sex (commercial provider)
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
Piercing (permanent)
Plastic surgery
Prison scenes
Prostitution (public pretense)
Prostitution (actual)
Pony slave  ………….please explain
Public exposure
Punishment scene
Pussy/cock whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Riding the “horse” (crotch tort) …………..please explain
Rituals
Religious scenes
Restrictive rules on behavior
Rubber/latex clothing
Rope body harness
Saran wrap ………………..please explain
Scarification
Scratching – getting
Scratching – giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving
Serving as art
Serving as ashtray
Serving as furniture
Serving as a maid
Serving as a toilet (urine)
Serving as a toilet (feces)
Serving as waitress/waiter
Serving orally (sexual)
Serving other Doms (supervised)
Serving other Doms (unsupervised)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Shaving (body hair)
Shaving (head hair)
Skinny dipping
Sleep deprivation
Sleep sacks ………….please explain
Slutty clothing (private)
Slutty clothing (public)
Spandex clothing
Spanking
Speech restrictions (when/what)
Speculums (anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Spitting
Spreader bars
Standing in corner
Stocks
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
Suspension (upright)
Suspension (inverted)
Supplying new partners for Dom
Swallowing feces
Swallowing semen
Swallowing urine
Swapping (with one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Tampon training (in ass)
Tattooing
Teasing
TENS unit (electrical toy)
Thumb cuffs (metal) …………….please explain
Tickling
Triple Penetration
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) .……………please explain
Uniforms
Including others
Vaginal dildo
Verbal humiliation
Vibrator on genitals
Violet wand (electrical toy)
Voyeurism (watching others)
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Video (watching others)
Video (recordings of you)
Water torture
Waxing (hair removal)
Wearing symbolic jewelry
Weight gain (forced)
Weight loss (forced)
Whipping
Wooden paddles
Wrestling