Beyond vanilla

The subject has arisen again.

BDSM, am I into it and if so in which role?

Am I Vanilla or not?

I suspect that anyone who is vanilla would if they knew what I have done in recent years,  say that I am not vanilla (that is if they even knew what being vanilla meant).

I suspect that anyone heavily into BDSM would say that I am little more than vanilla.

I was vanilla until a few years ago when I joined the world of sex bloggers. From the moment I began reading other sex blogs and discussing various aspects of sex with other sex bloggers my interest in sex beyond vanilla began to grow. Some of my favourite blogs from those early days have since ceased to be. Two of my favourite bloggers of that time were the very educational and sexy Cherrie and the delightfully adventurous La Fille. They are both missed (at least by me).

During this time I discovered in myself a need to try out a variety of things I had previously felt were no go areas for me.

There was the time a good friend (he was the one who introduced me to sex blogs in the first place) agreed to give me my first experience of being spanked/caned. I was astounded by my ability to cope with pain as have always believed myself to be a total wimp where pain is concerned. Since then sadly I have not experienced any further caning however I have been spanked (not seriously but in fun). Dave is quite happy to spank me and has also been the only man who has actually tied me up to a degree although others have said they would. Probably the most serious spanking I have had apart from that very first time was at the swingers party Dave took me to where my favourite room was the dungeon.

Who would have ever thought someone as shy and selfconscience as I would ever put on a show for doggers.

I have had many conversations with a variety of men about being in a Dom/sub relationship. This is something I am curious about and reading about it turns me on big time. But although quite a few men have shown an interest in the concept I have not found any who would do this with me properly. Some are merely interested in making a woman do whatever they want without caring about doing ao with care and love. I have discussed it with Dave as he seems to be the only one in my life who is capable of giving me the kind of sex I crave, but he says he could never be dominant.

I have had numerous conversations (mainly in the past) about whether I am submissive. I believe that I do have a tendency to allow my partner to lead me in sex. But there are times when I feel a need to be the one in control. There fore I believe that I am for the most part submissive but could never be totally controlled.

Ages ago I came across a BDSM quiz which I took and posted the results here. I think it would be interestin now to take the test again if it still exists just to see if the results come out the same as before.

BDSM Quiz

my result first time:

You Scored as Switch
(((Note: This quiz is not totally comprehensive because of the length such a quiz would be. I kept it sex-based because I felt that psychological profiles and motivations were too complicated and vary too greatly among people that practice BDSM.))) You know what you want but it has nothing to do with your own role in the bedroom. You have the ability to be flexible in that area which can be useful for exploring you sexuality with your partner.

Switch

96%

Experimental

89%

Submissive

86%

Bondage

82%

Exhibitionist / Voyeur

75%

Masochist

71%

Dominant

61%

Sadist

54%

Degradation Lover

54%

Vanilla

21%

my result this time is :

You Scored as Switch

(((Note: This quiz is not totally comprehensive because of the length such a quiz would be. I kept it sex-based because I felt that psychological profiles and motivations were too complicated and vary too greatly among people that practice BDSM.))) You know what you want but it has nothing to do with your own role in the bedroom. You have the ability to be flexible in that area which can be useful for exploring you sexuality with your partner.

Switch

100%

Experimental

93%

Bondage

93%

Submissive

86%

Exhibitionist / Voyeur

86%

Sadist

86%

Masochist

82%

Dominant

71%

Degradation Lover

46%

Vanilla

18%

Silent control

Esme had watched Armand’s face closely as he weighed her left breast in his hand giving it an appreciative caress with his thumb before following the same process with her right breast. It had made her uncomfortable the first time Armand had done this only to inform her that her breasts as magnificent as they are don’t match completely. No of course not, no woman is symetrical but Esme had never considered the difference in her breasts to be significant enough to notice. Esme had enjoyed the power that her breasts had afforded her over the men in her life, until she had met Armand.

Almost from the instant Armand had walked up to her in the wine bar Esme had felt there was something different about him. Placing his hand on her wrist as it rested on the bar, his firm but gentle grip that left her feeling compelled to look  into his deep brown eyes. Standing there looking as though he owned the place not saying  a word until Esme tried to slide her hand from beneath his, Esme began to feel a little unsure of herself. The normally confident PR girl was surrendering control to this unknown man before her.

Lifting her wrist from the bar, keeping his grip firm the slight pressure urging her away from the bar his soft voice barely more than a whiser, taking her by suprise. ‘I need you to follow me now please’. Astonished Esme found herself rising from her barstool and with her free hand grabbing her shoulder bag and jacket from their hook on the side of the bar. She allowed herself to be silently led between the tables of afterwork drinkers, through the door and into the early evening street.  It hadn’t occurred to her to say anything, to resist, she just followed this stranger like the obedient girl she was about to become for the first time in her life.

Once outside in the weak late summer sun, Esme hesitated, wanting to stay here and finish her glass of  Cabernet Sauvignon, the South African Merlot had been going down nicely easing the stress of the day from her body. Feeling her hesitation Armand urged her to follow him. ‘My car is just around the corner, come with me now I promise I will look after you.’ With those deep brown eyes boring into her own lighter hazel eyes Esme knew she didn’t have the strength of will to refuse. Trotting along beside this tall stranger his hand around her wrist never quite relinquishing his grip keeping her by his side as he strode on.

Now a month later Esme is still amazed at how easily Armand had taken control of her. Not for one minute had she doubted that he would take care of her. Without question she had climbed inside his Mercedes SLR with its strange upward sliding doors, obediently fastening her seatbelt, ready to be driven wherever this man cared to take her. It had  taken less than 10 minutes before the  sleek black machine slid through the barrier and down into the underground car park.  Still not speaking she had followed like a puppy at her master’s heel into the  lift which swiftly took them to his apartment (she had known instinctly that it was his).

Apart from work the two of them had become inseperable. At the end of that first evening they had driven together to her small flat to collect what clothes she would need for the next few days. They had talked while he made dinner, it was refreshing to talk to a smart intelligent man who didn’t think sex was everything. In fact sex hadn’t been part of their talk at all that night. But he had made it clear, although not in so many words that by leaving with him she had agreed to be his.

That first night they had slept side by side not touching under the fresh cool cotton sheets of his queensize bed. But it had been the second night that Esme had learnt what her future with Armand would trully be like. Each day Armand drove her to work and collected her, he took her shopping for new clothes gradually replacing  her own. Anything she wanted Armand would get for her.

‘Anything my girl desires will be yours in return for your complete devotion’.

For the first time since she had been a child Esme was not in control of her own life, she wasn’t sure this was what she wanted but she felt powerless to resist this man’s charm. Whatever he said she was slave to his greater presence. As the days passed into weeks she was learning more about this man and his desires. Each evening after dinner Armand led Esme into her small bedroom where she would find an outfit laid out for her. It could be a silky evening dress, pvc catsuit, school girl uniform the variations endless. Armand would silently watch her strip off, his cool assesment of her body unnerving had now become normal. Cupping her breasts in turn, running his hands over her body appreciatively showing her who it was that owned her, he would turn on his heel and leave her to dress. Once dressed Esme would join Armand wherever he was either in his sumptuous yet elegant sittingroom or in his expensively stark bedroom.

Night after night they played out whatever scenario he had in his mind. The most startling revelation had been the night there had been no clothes just a rope laid out on the bed. That night he had waited while she bathed before expertly wrapping the rope around her body and limbs in a such a way that it was obvious he knew exactly what he was doing. Oddly Esme had felt only a flicker of fear before succumbing to his expertise. Even in the short time they had been together she had already learnt that it was better for her to trust Armand ad do exactly what he wanted. Her obedience was rewarded with the soothing comfort of sleeping in his arms in his big comfortable bed. Reluctance was rewarded with a lonely night in her own uncomfortable single bed with its sagging mattress in the cramped dark room the door locked and a bucket in the corner if she needed it.

There had been 2 nights spent there so far the first had been the night she had been introduced to his array of leather paddles. At first Esme had stared in horror as Armand had approached her with a small leather oar shaped item in his hand motioning her to bend over the back of the only chair in her room.

‘Young lady you will bend over the chair and surrender your smooth bottom to my paddle. Resistence will lead to you being banished from my bed tonight.’ she had been scared for the first time since they had met. ‘Please Armand I’m scared, please don’t hurt me, I will do anything you want but please not that…..please’. Without waiting he had pushed her over the chair and begun using his paddle on her soft flesh. There was none of the pain she was expecting just tiny taps followed by soft carresses. Mistakenly Esme thought her pleading had brought a change of heart but in reality he was merely introducing her gently to one of his favourite games. When he pulled her back to a standing position, she let out a big sigh of relief.

But instead of pulling her into his embrace for a kiss he left the room locking the door as he went. At first Esme had sat on the edge of the bed patiently waiting for him to return……..he didn’t …….not until the morning. The second time was when she was dressed in a micro skirt skimpy top with spagheti straps and red fishnet stockings and heels. She looked fantastic and knew it. The trouble came when Armand told her they were going out for a drink.

Today Esme was facing the prospect of another night in solitude. Earlier the two of them had been shopping for groceries. Armand had embarrassed her by picking up a variety of melons and comparing each to her breasts. But as embrrassed as she was Esme could cope with that. Her undoing had been after they had returned home. he had passed her the ginger root they had selected together and instructed her to peel it. Esme was curious. ‘why do you want it peeled?’

‘peeled ginger will be more effective, have you ever heard of figging?’

She hadn’t and duly peeled the knobbly root to Armand’s specification then whilst he prepared theirigging meal she googled figging.

A peeled ginger root, shaped like a slender butt plug, inserted into the anus without lubrication of any kind. The ginger juices cause pain and extreme horniness. The person belonging to said anus become twitchy, jumpy and very lively. The effect lasts for about 20 minutes or more depending on the freshness and strength of the root. The root can also be applied directly to the clitoris or inserted into the urethra.

Bruce’s plan

A few days ago Bruce started texting me.

He reminded me that I have a desire to be tied to a bed. He reminded that I want to be spanked.

I was looking forward to you being tied to a four poster in just heels and stockings and spanking you xxx

I didn’t reply because I was busy, hours  later I got another text

So you not want to be spanked anymore

I didn’t say that

Ooh good !! So when would you like to be spanked then ???

I will think about it x

Well I do hope you think about being tied to a 4 poster bed in your stockings and high heels with me teasing you with my tongue and spanking you xx

sounds good

Well I have erotic dreams about it ! Would it be you and me or would you like anyone else with us ???

Later I was online chatting to Dave

do you fancy going back to hotel with me sometime …….Bruce wants to tie me to a fourposter and spank me

i would love to.
i dont know why Bruce hasnt replied back to my message asking him sailing.

it wouldnt be a party like before
I dont know

he seemed keen, but hey ho,

he hadn’t text me until wed

if you want moral supprt, then yes I’ll come with you. Bruce might even invite another woman for me, lol

but just remember how he whipped Alice…. with the studs on the whip
i.e. the wrong end

I wouldn’t want to go on my own

could you take that much whipping ?

probably not

i dont mind taking you, thats not a problem. it is whether you can take him

I have only been whipped once and that was much more measured and calm

its upto you

my opinion is he might get a bit too forecful on and in you, and I wont be able to stop him
perhaps much better meeting him in a party again

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx thank you

I had no idea he cared so much

In need of fun

It’s been tough recently and I’m in need of some fun.

Tomorrow Karl will be at my house early, then in the afternoon we are meeting up with Dave to go sailing for a few hours…….. will we hav

I don’t know but if we do you can be sure I will tell you about it.

After we have been sailing we will all go back to Daves place to shower and get changed before we set out.

We are going to another party like the one I went to with Kev a while ago, only this time Dave is going with us, there may also be another couple plus possibly a single female.

If all goes to plan we will all be having fun this time tomorrow. I hope that Ian will be bringing his bag of toys and props again. If not we will have to improvise. Alice tells me that she is bringing a whip and she wants to suck my nipples again. there will be lots of hands, mouths, cocks and pussies for everyone to play with let alone toys and other props.

It should be a good night.

My limitations O-R

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B continued with C – D and   E – F and  G – H and  I, J, k, L, M & N just a few more this time  O – R .some of these I have commented on already.

Oral/anal play (rimming)  ……………….I guess I might tolerate receiving but giving are you serious……do you know where that butt has been?
Over the knee spanking ………perhaps I should be a bad girl just so you will put me over your knee …….do you have strong knees?
Orgasm denial  ……..this is an interesting one……….It would take a lot of training as I currently have no control ……if I am going to orgasm the hoover dam wouldn’t be able to hold me back
Orgasm control  …………..see above …………..but I do like to have control over your orgasm hee hee
Outdoor scenes   ………… I have been known to indulge with varying degrees of success
Pain (severe) .………..do you have any idea how low my pain threshold is? on a scale of 1 to 10 my pain threshold is -5
Pain (mild)     …………..If its in a good cause ie my pleasure ……….bring it on 😉
Persona training (in scene)  ……………will give it a go (with the right person)
Personal modification (rl)  .………….if it leads to personal improvement I am all for it ……..just don’t hurt me too much …….(did I tell you I’m a whimp)
Phone sex (serving Dom)   ………….If thats what it takes
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends)    ……….. If I had a Dom who required it then of course
Phone sex (commercial provider)    .………….It has been suggested by some at work that I would earn a fortune at it
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)    ……………..No, Karl asked me  just days ago if I wanted nipple or clit piercings ……..I don’t need the added stimulation of  metal embedded in my flesh to increase my arousal
Piercing (permanent)  ……………see above………. I am not against them for others but not for me I’m  afraid
Plastic surgery  …………..if it was for health reasons yes but not for pleasure only
Prison scenes  …………not sure why anyone would want to do this but if it floats your boat
Prostitution (public pretense)   …………small possibility
Prostitution (actual)    …………..no I don’t think so………I do what I do because I  want to, not because I have been paid to
Pony slave  ………….please explain
Public exposure  …………..have done this to a degree and found it thrilling ……..not sure how far I would dare to go though
Punishment scene     have tried to do this …………..would love to try it again
Pussy/cock whipping  ………..willing to try this ……..just remember the pain thresh hold
Pussy worship   …………you may certainly worship my pussy………..I promise I won’t complain
Riding crops  ………..didn’t know you could ride a crop…….oh thats mot it is it………um be gentle please ……..oh ok just don’t make me count and afterwards can I try it on you?
Riding the “horse” (crotch tort) …………..please explain
Rituals    …………. I have my own but I don’t think you mean those
Religious scenes  ………… a man of the cloth does feature in a few of my joint fantasies with Sebastian
Restrictive rules on behavior   ………..hmm would struggle between being  a good girl and a brat
Rubber/latex clothing   …………cool something to get me all hot
Rope body harness  …….if you have enough rope go for it …………..if I don’t like it I won’t do it again

spanked tied to a four poster bed

At the start of the week I logged onto fab and found a couple of messaged from Bruce, one of his messages asked if I was Secretly (he only knows me as SN). So obviously he had seen my solo profile. I changed login to look at any messages on there…………since teaming up as a couple with Karl back in April I rarely look at my solo profile. I was right there were several messages from Bruce. He had left his mobile number asking me to text him.

Although I text him briefly that evening it wasn’t until lunchtime the next day that we managed to speak. We chatted about various things but the crux of it was that he wanted to see me again. He also said that he and Alice want a threesome with me (that I am not so sure about!) but the main thing is that they are planning another get together later this month and I am invited to go either on my own or with Karl. I have said that I would go as a couple.

I had been back at my desk for about 10 minutes when I got a text from Bruce……….

Iagine being naked and blindfolded and tied to a 4 poster bed and having champagne licked off your tits and then suddenly a sharp crack across your bum as the first spanking hits your sexy ass, pleasure and pain together xxxxx

As I arrived home from work another text………..

When would you like to be spanked and have chilled champagne licked off your body?

lol

Bet your  thinking about it xxx

As it happened I wasn’t, I had other more pressing things to think about at the time. But it was nice to think that he was thinking about my body. Bruce is away at the moment but I think I shall be hearing more from him, there have been a couple of emails and texts already.

when there were 7

It was while I was in the bath that I got his text. At first I left it then thinking about it I figured that maybe he was changing the time he would pick me up …….good as I had just 10 minutes to finish washing my hair, dry, dress and dry my hair & put my face on. But it was Karl saying it will be us, them and another couple.

So it was that 2 hours later we were intorduced to Bruce & Alice and Tigger and Winnie. It was only when we were sitting chatting that we discovered we were waiting for the seventh person to join our gathering. When Ian arrive he was carrying a very large bag. We all had to wait until we were in one of the two adjoining double rooms we would be using before we found out what was in Ian’s bag of  tricks. These included a paddle, crop restraints, masks, vibrators, but plugs and anal beads to name but a few.

But if you want to know about what happened next you will have to wait.

If you have been reading this blog for any length of time you would probably realise that I have a curiosity about being submissive. I have talked to various men about it. Some have been keen to play the role of Dom for me but it just wasn’t happening.  Others like Dave have ruled themselves out of the role. Others like Karl I wouldn’t bother to even discuss it with, there just wouldn’t be any point. Although after this most recent adventure he might get a little more adventurous with me.

Quite by accident I clicked on an advert for a BDSM & alternative lifestyle site. I have now created a profile which states

I have an unfulfilled desire to see what its like to be submissive. Not sure if I am more of a switch with more submissive tendencies. I have dabbled in the swinging scene but need to experiment with pushing my boundaries with someone who knows what they are doing. ………………..Teach me

I have been suprised just how many experienced Doms there are even in just my area in the right age group. At the moment out of those who have hotlisted, winked or messaged me I have about 4 possibles to think about. These are 3 of them……

a) I am a genuine Dom and in need of a new Sub to train and use. Exploring your boundaries and teaching you in the ways of an obedient Sub is what I specialise in. I can accommodate and interested in meeting you for a chat to explore your desires, our meeting would be regular and gentle to start with leading to more intensive training. (geographically closest)

b) experienced master in a vanilla marriage.  Just let me know your fantasies and desires and if we are compatible I would be happy to fulfill any fantasy you have. I am clean, genuine, a medical professional (his pictures are good)

c)I have been involved in the scene actively for fifteen years and have trained many submissives. I am now looking for a submissive women or couple whom I can treat, tie and train and if they are very good treat them again. I never forget that it’s all about pleasure really.I am fully experienced in bondage, punishment routines, humiliation and mental control. I will adjust our regime to suit your needs and experience.
You should enjoy being trained and tied and being sexually servile on a regular basis. I am not looking for a one-night stand or just quick fix sex. I want to mould you into my perfect sex slave. Your ultimate pleasure will be determined by how well you please me. The more you please the more I will treat.

I have a private, discreet house in France. It is remote and ideal for extended sessions where scenarios can be played out, uninterrupted for a day or two if you would like the experience of being totally immersed in your submission and service.

I shall sleep on it before replying to any of them. There are others but these seem to be the most likely out of those who contacted me today (my first full day of membership)

Limitations I,J,K,L,M & N

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B continued with C – D and   E – F and  G – H and now I, J, k, L, M & N some of these I have commented on already.

Ice cubes ………..yummy I like this kind of play especially when used on a hot body (preferably mine)
Immobilisation ……………this could be a little limiting…….but I can see the attraction both of imobilising and being immobilised
Infantilism…………..no  not of any interest to me ……….I am after all a mother several times over
Initiation rites ………..this sounds creepy so I guess I would want to know ore before comiting myself
Injections…………….no, no, no , no no…….I am a diabetic with a fear of needles!!
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage……..having never experienced rope play of any kind I cannot say yes or no
Interrogations …………..I think I would break down fairly easily
Kidnapping ………..depends who by and where to
Kneeling …………..careful of my dodgy knee
Knife play.………..no  don’t do blades ……….someone (hopefully not me) could get hurt!
Leather Clothing………….The only problem I see here is finding the right size as there isn’t much give in leather
Leather restraints………I have seen some retty pink soft leather ones I would love to own
Lectures for misbehavior……..ooops have I been naughty ?
Licking (non-sexual) ………..ewww makes me think of being licked in the face by a slobbery dog no thanks
Lingerie (wearing)…………where have you been if you don’t know that I adore wearing sexy lingerie
Manacles and Irons……………..not so sure , maybe if it is only for a short time as an experiment
Manicures (giving) .……….are you joking? ………….I wouldn’t have a clue where to start
Massage (giving).………..happy to give it a go but somewhat clueless could do more harm than good
Massage (receiving)………..oh yes please, love it
Medical scenes ………….this sounds a bit creept unless you mean like drs and nurses but somehow I think this could be a bit more serious
Modeling for erotic photos……………when and where?
Mouth bits …………………what?
Mummification …………………really?
Name change (for scene)………..would this be like me using another name for swinging purposes?

Needle Play ………I already said I don’t do needles did you hear that ……..no needles ever!!
Nipple clamps ………coming around to this one………..have experimented with clothes pegs a few times but only on my own
Nipple rings (piercing)…………..I’m too much of a slightweight to get that done
Nipple weights …………that could be stretching my tolerance a bit too far!

Limitations G – H

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B continued with C – D and   E – F and now G – H some of these I have commented on already.

Gags (cloth) …………….it had better be clean if its going into my mouth !!
Gags (inflatable) ………….does that mean it can be inflated to the optimum size for the mouth it is going into.
Gags (phallic) …………… oh goody shaped gags ………….do they cause the gagging reflex?
Gags (rubber) ………… I thought we were supposed to use a rubber elsewhere
Gags (tape) ………….can it be in pretty colours ?(I’ve seen it in pink but would like red).
Gas masks ………….We sometimes need one in our bathroom …………hmm  having used one during basic training for my brief stint in the Territorial Army I’ not sure I would want to indulge during sexual play
Gates of Hell (male) …………..please explain ………..is he strung up on a wrought iron gate ?
Genital sex ………….am I being dense here?………..doesn’t sex usually involve genitals
Given away to another Dom (temp) …………provided that my Dom (if I had one) was satisfied that I would be safe with  the other Dom
Given away to another Dom (perm)…………..if it was in my best interests
Golden Showers …………..no no no to golden showers or any other colour
Gun play ……………I’ve heard it called a few things and I know they like to shoot their load from their pencil but a gun !
Hair brush spankings ………..why would you spank a hair brush? ………..ooops you mean being spanked with one  hmm not tried it yet but you never know ……….I assume it would be bristle side up
Hair pulling …………oh yes I love this ………..not that I have ever said so
Hand Jobs (giving) ……………yes I do and I’m not bad at it but do prefer to use my mouth more than my hand
Hand Jobs (receiving) ……………..he can use his hands on me anytime
Harems (serving w/other subs) …………not sure I could do this as I am not very domestic but maybe
Harnessing (leather) …………I would probably try it in the right circumstances with the right person/persons
Harnessing (rope) ……….as above I might be convinced to try it
Having food chosen for you …………provided that the person doing the choosing knew what I would/wouldn’t eat
Having clothing chosen for you …………..provided that the person doing the choosing had a sense of style
(head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) …………….have you been reading this blogg for long ……….if so you will know the answer
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus) ……………not enough men know how to give expert head but when they do …….mmmmmmmm there is nothing in this world that is better.
High Heel Wearing ………….anyone who knows me knows that I adore wearing high heels
High Heel Worship …………. have you seen my wardrobe? ………….oh thats not what it means ………..perhaps
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)………….probably not
Hoods …………if I had cold ears………..not tight fitting
Hot oils (on genitals) ………………if he has upset me I ight be tempted to do this to him
Hot waxing ……………noooooooooooooo
Housework (doing)……………..why start now?
Human puppy dog …………………what?
Humiliation (private)………………does this include the above? ………..unlikely…….. I am nolonger married!!
Humiliation (public) …………as above
Hypnotism…………..if I trusted the hypnotist

Limited Comments C – D

Here are my comments on the list I posted here a couple of weeks ago. I started with A – B and now continue with C – D some of these I have commented on already.

Cages (locked inside) ……………..Not something I could ever envisage myself experiencing
Caning …………yes this is something I can see myself doing in a small way…………having done this once before and enjoyed the pleasure pain in a peverse kind of way
Castration fantasy ………………See previous
Catheterization ………………See previous

Cattle prod (electrical toy) …………….. no way ina ny way shape or form would I go near one of these
Cells/Closets (locked inside of) ………….Whilst I can’t see this happening, I can’t see it being too much of a problem
Chains ………with the right partner in the right situation I might agree to this
Chamber pot use …………… I can’t see this but if I ever found myself in sub or slave situation I might have no choice

Chastity belts ………this I am curious about

Chauffeuring ………………See previous
Choking …………. this is a definite no no for me
Chores (domestic service) …………. I am not the most domestic woman in the world so this really would be a chore
Clothespins …………….. I have tried these on my nipples but unlike others I don’t think I could bear to have them used on my labia
Cock rings/straps ………… I have never experienced the use either of these but I can see myself experimenting with a cock ring on my partner. straps  though I don’t know
Cock worship ………….. give me a good cock and I will worship it lovingly…….give me two cocks to worship and I will be in heaven
Collars (worn in private) …………. I quite like the idea of this in the right situation but my aversion to anything around my neck doesn’t help in this fantasy
Collars (worn in public) ………… my aversion aside I could only see this within circles where this would be accepted
Competitions (with other subs) ………… having a competative nature I would relish this but I would have thought being competative would not fit in with being submissive
Corsets (wearing casually) ………….oh yes
Corsets (trained waist reduction) …………. if I could still breathe then yes
Cuffs (leather) …………. bring it on
Cuffs (metal) …………… yes I can see myself wearing these but not for lonf periods
Cutting (Light) Cutting (Deep) Cutting (Hidden Areas) Cutting (Visible Areas) ………. no no no no noooooooooooo
Diapers (wearing) …………. no thank you I am not a baby and I fear that wearing them in old age will unfortunately come to me eventually and I would rather save that indignity until it cannot be avoided
Diapers (wetting) …………. see above
Diapers (soiling) ………….. see above
Dilation ……………..See previous
Dildos …………. the more the merrier especial in the hands of one or more lovers